The quick and dirty button guide:
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I use Simple Comments, a plugin for MT, for my comments and TrackBacks. It combines the display of my comments and pings into one display, since I'm of the mind that pings are technically comments that appear on another person's blog. Using Simple Comments makes it easier for readers to follow the conversation without having to click all over the place.
I learned how to skin Zuly's Zu by gleaning information from two tutorials:
How do you make a website skinnable? at domesticat.net
Lisa, Gal of Unix's skinning tutorial
I also had many support emails from Kristine.
If you want to have expand and collapse the extended portions of your entries and your comments on your blog index page, you can use this information from Scripty Goddess. (This is no longer implemented because it was driving me crazy each time I tweaked my index page. I haven't had any complaints, so I'm stickin' with it.)
Lisa, Gal of Unix, has a wonderful Smiley Tutorial.
I gathered my smiley collection from across many sources, which I've listed below. Kathy led me to almost all of them. She's a smiley-aholic. (I've got a large collection on my hard drive for future use!)
Des Smileys (French Collection)
Jordy's World (in German, but a great collection)